Hm I should have mentioned that we were in contact before. Can you
access the old case?
If not, no matter, here's a summary:
1. I left her last August
2. I'm paying the mortgage where she and the kids are living - it's in my sole name. I'm also paying rent for my place.
3. I paid a lot in support in the initial months , but now she's on benefits, I have stopped. She says she doesn't have enough to live on , though, and is asking for an extra £300 a month. I (stupidly, because I always end up agreeing to her requests on the phone, just so I can get off the phone and not be pestered) agreed to this, just the other day, even though I can't really afford it.
Now I am going to say that I will pay the £300 (as stated in the forms you've see). If she doesn't agree to petition me, I am planning to say that I will petition her, but I won't be able to pay the £300 (for many months, even a year) because the money will be going on court fees and legal fees.
Q1 Does that make sense to you?
I have spent a fortune on mediation, but this has got us nowhere at all. In the mediations she gets hysterical and won't discuss properly.
She is on Employment Support Allowance so can avoid paying court fees.
Q2 If I send her all these documents and she agrees, can she send them back to ME and I take them to the court? Or must she do that?
Q3 I have tried to help her with the benefits application. I didn't actually see an official letter informing her she is on ESA though. Can she just take along the swathes of correspondence from the benefit people, which taken together make it clear she is claiming? Or is it a specific document that she needs?
(If I can take the documents myself, I suppose I could always just pay for her and cut my losses; I'd still be saving a lot)