Thanks for getting back to me.
I have a son from a previous relationship. He's 9. I don't work full time because I fetch him from school at 3.30 in the afternoons and take him to extra murals, particularly tennis, at which he is very skilled.
My husband is not my son's biological father, but his step-father. He is not even a legal guardian so I'm assuming he has no financial responsibility towards my son. He has been paying for my son's tennis coaching and other bits and pieces since we've been married, and in the three years we were seeing each other before we got married.
I work as a part-time accounts assistant. Previously I worked as a billing systems specialist.
Our home is rented, and in my husband's name. It's expensive, at 2000 pm, and is not something I could pay on my own.
My husband earns 80K pa and is the main breadwinner. I work so I can buy uniforms, books and tennis raquets etc. for my son. It's not enough to cover anything else really.
I'd like to leave, and rent a place for myself and my son, but I can't afford to. Eventually I'd like to get divorced, as I don't think my marriage is saveable, but it's the immediate future I'm worried about.
Being at home with him is destructive and emotionally damaging to both my son and myself.