We lived together in Milton Keynes, where Emilie was born. She then moved to Northhampton after separating and then to London (50 miles away) in 2010. I have since moved near Reading which is a marginally shorter distance of 40 miles. Then a bit closer (Colnbrook) but it did not work out because of the cost of rent and my job issues. So now back near Reading (Wokingham) She recently at the beginning of mediation kept complaining about me moving 22 miles further, but it is still a shorter distance & time than her move. The mediator was quick to tell her she moved and created the distance first.
I am happy to have her in the holidays! But anything over my holiday allowance I can't spend quality time with my daughter as she would be in child care for 10hours per day, and that is not a sufficient replacement timewise for the lost weekends as I will see her for 3 hours a day (morning and 2 hours after pick her up from childcare), versus the full weekend I had with her before.
It is not all about money but this is why my ex says I must have her half school holidays to deal with childcare costs. It was not an issue before for her! I would pick up the costs plus my maintenance would go up and I fall in a lower bracket. So it will cost me about £900 for her forcing these changes on me, where I'm loosing out on the time I used to have with my daughter.
This is why I think her hubby is involved. To be fair is neither here nor there, just very disappointed in her selfish controlling behaviour.
My daughter has been with me this week and is due to be picked up in half an hour, she (without any coaxing/interference) has said she wants to stay! So she will not like the weekend changes one bit! When she caught wind of change she point blank told her mum she wants weekends with dad.