My ex (in the USA) said that he didn't get any letter from the court. I sent him a copy of my letter (with the dates and things they were requesting) and called the court to inform them and asked them to resend it. Apparently the court resent the letter on Dec 5, but my ex said he still hasn't received it! I called the court again to inform them and they suggested I put in writing for a request for the court to email the letters to him. In the meantime I have sent in my form e as requested and have to send in details of my complaint by dec 26, with the hearing on Jan 9. I am still hoping to come to some agreement before then.
There is another related issue that I would be asking the court to resolve. My 18 year old has started university in San Diego, but with international fees of $55,000 per year which I did not agree to and can not afford, and this is why my ex is not paying anything for my 15 year old who is full time with me. She is saying that she would like to go to high school there for her last two years, instead of her A levels here. She is not sure if she wants to go to university in the UK or the USA. I have just found out that she has to be resident in the UK for 3 years or else she would have to pay international uni fees here!!! Apparently one year is seen as a gap year and is ok. She has never lived abroad and doesn't know what it will be like, but I am concerned about her burning her bridges there and not having the choice to come back.
With my ex not paying any child support, I can't go and visit my 18 year old daughter at uni or fly her home to visit us here in the UK. I am very concerned that my 15 year old will go to school there, but I won't be able to pay for her to come and visit me. Her father moved to California in Feb 2014, and has flown her out to see him 3 times and he has flown over twice with his work to see her. My daughter has no idea of the conflict with her father over finances, as I don't think this would be appropriate, but also doesn't know that I wouldn't be able to visit her and that she wouldnt be able to come back to visit me here. I think it is a fantastic opportunity for them to have the experience of living abroad, but don't know about him paying for her to go out there but never being able to come back? As a condition of her moving abroad to live with him, I would like him to agree to pay for two or three flights for her to come back during the year so that I can see her. He is the one who choose to emigrate to California and got the big salary increase.
Can I do this?
With the risk of having to pay UK international student fees for her in the future, it would make sense for her to have a gap year there, or perhaps to go there after her A levels for a gap year when she will have more of an idea where she will want to go to university. She only has to live there for a year and then she can have the California resident uni fees (which are about the same as they are here) if she decides she wants to go to university there.