I will do whatever it takes but only if I see something in return from the ex! I think it's only fair he gives a little as he chose to move away from the area in the first place, thus creating the distance issue.
He was living 10 minutes away in the family home when we agreed the Arrangements for the Children and it was agreed then that he'd have them every other weekend.
I would be happy to do the journey on one of the holidays if he came to see them and had them locally on the next, for example. I don't really see why I should foot the bill for petrol and accommodation and have my free time taken up staying somewhere I wouldn't choose to stay as I don't really get a break that way, but I would do it for the kids if they were happy their Dad was making an effort too.
I don't think he'd find this acceptable either though as he will expect the children to stay at his house, particularly if they are near him and like I said, this is causing the problem for some reason.
As he works down south on a fairly regular basis, I have offered to bring the children to him in London, for example, or Swindon but his view is that a few hours with them is not good enough "quality time" whereas putting them in a car for 9 hour round trip does count as "quality time" in his opinion.
I am sorry if it sounds like I'm moaning but this is a stressful situation for me as I'm effectively sat in the middle between him and the kids and to me, any time he can have with them should be taken. Hours of contact must be better than none which is the result of his ultimatum.