Thank you, ***** ***** very helpful. My husband is arguing though that they are also his children and when they are in his care, he can take them to wherever he wants. He appears to have accepted though that they should not stay overnight as long as we are still officially living in the family home. However, I actually believe that they should not see her at all while we still share the same address.
Am I able to refer to the Children's act as he is likely to dispute this?
Once we have our own new homes, will I still be able to insist that they should not stay overnight at her house (or in fact as it turns out, they have already stayed overnight at her parents' home!). I guess I will then not be able to avoid him taking the children to her place during the day anymore.
I have now a date for the initial meeting to start mediation (18th November). I hope that we will be able to sort out childcare arrangements in this process as we will not have moved by then, so in a way I do not have to discuss future visits to Nicola's place at this stage. My concern though is that he will not be able (or willing?) to attend the scheduled meetings as they are in working hours and he will find it difficult to take time off work. I guess, if he fails to attend and we cannot come to an agreement in a neutral place, I would have to involve a lawyer at that point? There are also financial issues I need to sort as we have a holiday house in joint names in France. He has given his verbal agreement to pay me £1500 per month for the children (I am paying all bills/school related bills/presents etc and he only ever covers around £150 per month for breakfast club), but I would like to get this in writing as I imagine that things can turn quite nasty between us.
I would appreciate advice on my legal rights so that I can argue with him in an informed way. many thanks,