Hi Clare, thanks for your reply. I am so disappointed that there is nothing we can really do to make him pay - what is the point of law saying he must pay if that cannot be enforced by a court?
Over the years my husband has written letters of complaint to the CSA, written to our MP and Downing Street directly asking for their support and advice, sent invoices to the CSA for the amount owed - basically anything and everything that we can think of to do to make something happen with our case. The replies we have received are all the same really, they are sorry but there is nothing they can do.
If the courts would not help us, there are two options we have left (that we can think of): do you think it would be worth trying to get some money using a private debt collection agency? or there are these people: http://www.childsupportsolutions.co.uk/ - I am not sure on how or what they charge but do you think they may be able to help us? I am just desperate now to get something sorted out with this problem as it is putting enormous strain on our marriage and financially we are in real trouble. We need some money from my ex urgently, I just don't know what we can do to get it. I have agreed to see him and I will act as kindly, nicely and politely as is humanly possible just to get some money as he says he wants us to be friends and then he may 'think about giving me what I want', but there is only so much friendship that can happen, after he has behaved so badly and treated our children so horribly too. Besides, I suspect that as he always did, he has only said this to get me running around trying to make him happy and make him the centre of attention and then he will say 'Oh no, I won't pay you because you forgot to .... (offer me a coffee, ask after my mother etc)' and he will make it all my fault again.
Sorry, you don't need to know all this, I just want you to know that we are so desperate and need to do something about this. Please let me know what you think of the debt collection idea or the link I sent. Thanks!