yes sure. just after my nanny passed away he left and we seperated. he pressured me when he knew i was grieving by bugging me to sort out an income for myself,as he wanted to pay as little as possible, ie: his half of the mortgage only.
i started a job 6 weeks after being on jobseekers as i was worried abt being ab;e to support our children financially and keep the home.
he plans stuff to do with the children and does not consult me and just expects me to let him have them on my days, he expects me to accept it or he tell the children to blame me for them not being allowed to go. he also expects me to have the children on his days when he has other plans for himself. he has intruded our privracy on a few occassions showing aggresion by bashing on the front door in a rage.
he constantly tells me the house is still his and he does not want any other male inside it. he formed a relationship 2 mths after we seperated and told the children not to tell me, since then he has been in and out of relationship with her, i have tried to protect the children from this enviroment but i just recieved verbal abuse.
my grandad the passed away in feburary and he filled for divorce soon after knowing once again i was at my weakest. he gave grounds on the divorce which were not completly true but i contest as i was told i would have to pay his legal fees which i am not in a financial position to do so right now.
he refused to face me in mediation as he said to me i make his skin crawl. this is just one exsample of the emotional abuse he tries to hurt me with.
i have recently started a relationship and he verbally made it clear he didnt approve. his latest attempt to hurt me was by calling child safeguarding to accuse me and my boyfriend for drinking and drugsin the presence of the children, as he knows this allogation is not true, i am not a drinker and have never been involved with drugs. my children have never even spent any length of time with the male in question as i felt they had enough to cope with righ now, therefore i only see him when the children are with their father.
I have raised the children and cared for them for 14 years and have always protected them from any harm and their father knows this.