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Clare, Family Solicitor
Category: Family Law
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Experience:  I have been a solicitor in High Street Practise since 1985 and have specialised in Family Law for the last 10 years
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My ex-wife has arranged stepson Jack (17 yrs and 10

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My ex-wife has arranged for my stepson Jack (17 yrs and 10 mnths old) to meet his biological father next weekend for the first time without consulting me.
This man has not had any contact with Jack since Jack was about 3 months old, he has not made any attempt to be part of his life and never made any financial contribution to his upbringing. My ex-wife always maintained he'd have nothing to do with Jack because of how he behaved at the start of Jacks life, irregular visits and sporadic cash payments for a couple of months then nothing since.
I have brought Jack up as my own since he was 17 months old and paid maintenance for him and had him and his younger brother Alfie (11 yrs old and my biological child) every w/end since my ex and I divorced 7 years ago.
My ex and I now do not communicate directly at all, messages are passed on via the boys - her choice not mine - and haven't done for the last couple of years.
Jack has lived with me for the last 7 months after walking out of his mothers home due to series of arguments, although they have been communicating on-line in recent weeks. My biological son still lives with my ex-wife.
Jack has never expressed any interest in meeting his biological father until his mother has put the idea in his head recently and now gone ahead and made this arrangement. I've seen the facebook messages between Jack and his Mum in which she's told him not to tell me what's going on.
I'm very upset and concerned about the situation and want to protect Jack as he is an emotionally immature 17 yr old and also was diagnosed and medicated for ADHD from when he was 9 yrs old, although he's been off the meds since 16 when he hit puberty and the symptoms seem to have reduced.
We got married when Jack was 6 and the ex was pregnant with his brother. We changed Jacks surname to mine by deed-pole but I did not adopt Jack officially because we were led to believe that would have entailed contacting his biological father, which my ex-wife didn't want to do at the time, and I believe I've always had parental responsibility for him since this time.
Can I prevent this meeting happening legally?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Family Law
Expert:  Clare replied 2 years ago.
HiThank you for your questionMy name is ***** ***** I shall do my best to help you although I am afraid that the news is bad.I am sorry but you do not and never have had Parental Responsibility for the Child.Even if there had been a Court Order for Residence in your favour this would have ended on his 16th birthday.Indeed even if you had adopted him and you DID have PR - then given his age you still would not have been able to prevent the meeting and the young man i sover 16 and it is up to him who he meets and when,I am sorry - I do realise that this is not what you wish to hear, but sadly it is the law as it standsPlease ask if you need further details
Expert:  Clare replied 2 years ago.