It was nice to speak with you.
Just to follow up:
- you are not responsible for Child Maintenance through the Child Maintenance Service as you are not a biological parent.
- The child would be treated as a child of the family in respect of dealing with the matrimonial finances pursuant to divorce.
You explained that you are paying significant monies to the mother, her rent, bills, a lump sum payment each month and that you had invested in a business for her. Yet your own assets are very limited and this is not sustainable to you.
I have explained the marriage is a short one and given also the long period of separation the mothers claimm would be limited. The court would want to ensure that the needs of the child are met which includes housing but that the mother also has to mitigate her own circumstances.
I suggest family mediation to try and reach an agreement as to the financial arrangements moving forward. Family mediation will help in relation to disclosure of yours and your wifes assets, income and outgoings so that effective discussions can take place in relation to needs moving forward.
If agreement can be reached at mediation then make sure that a consent order is submitted to the court when applying for decree absolute to make this legally binding. It is worth instructing a solicitor at that point to make sure that the consent order is prepared correctly and protects your interests moving forward.
Let me know if you have any follow up questions as this thread remains open for me to answer those for you.