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I am sorry to hear about what happened.
What you need to know is that it is the position of the courts that children are entitled to a really good relationship with both of their parents as long as there are no child protection concerns as to why this cannot happen.
You seem well aware of the possible risk posed by the man whom abused you and if you have ensured that the children will not be left with him and you can trust your mother not to allow this man access to your children then this is not a reason for a court to say that your children should live with your partner should you separate.
In reality a court will want to maintain consistency for the children so whoever has been the main carer so should continue with the other parent also getting lots of time with the children.
You should consider mediation as this is a way of trying to reach agreement as to when the children should spend time with both of you without the need for court. Mediation is independant and lawyers are not involved. Google family mediation in your area and give them a call to self refer.
If agreement cannot be reached at mediation as to when the children will spend time with both of you then you can apply to court for a child arrangements order and the court will make the decision. You do have to attempt mediation before you can apply to court unless the matter is urgent.
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