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The starting point is that you both have parental responsibility which means you have equal rights and responsibility. You are allowed to collect the children from school. If you can not agree something through mediation, then I am afraid that the option would be to issue court proceedings for for a child arrangemrnt order. This will be a court order which which sets out where the children are and when. This also gives you and the children a clear understanding of what has been agreed which is tied up in a court order. If there is a breach or someone changes there mind then the court can enforce the order. There is an excellent book on this topic for about ten pounds on Amazon which might also help.https://www.amazon.co.uk/d/Books/How-Represent-Yourself-Family-Court-understanding-resolving/147211910X Please rate positive.
The police will not get involved. So you either turn up to collect them yourself first or you make the application to the court for a child arrangement order.
In many ways yes.
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A situation where the school is the scene of a parental tug of war would not be seen as acceptable by the courts - and however unfairly in the circumstances, you describe you are at high risk of being seen as the one to "blame"
You have not said how old the children are and how the shared care is working for them - which is the important part of the equation
You mention that you have been to mediation - if it was not within the last three months then you need to attend another mediation assessment and information meeting - and then you can apply to the court for a Child Arrangement Order
In the mean time you could make an emergency application for a Specific Issue Order stating that the current arrangements continue until a decision is made about what is best for the children.
At worst you might lose of your two nights in the week - not both
I am glad that you made that choice.
Your eldest is free to decide for himself - so far as the younger two are concerned tread carefully - it is hard for children to be faced with decision making like this.
It may be that they are struggling a little more - so maybe an offer to drop to just every tuesday and alternate wekends may assist
You are welcome - good luck