Thank you for clarifying that for me.
In answer to your questions:
As there is no court order in place in relation to the child maintenance and given yoour daughters age and that she is at university then child maintenance is not actually payable under the Child Maintenance Service Rules (CMS - new name for CSA) as child maintenance is only payable under the CMS rules until child reaches 20 if they are in full time non advance education. University courses are considered advanced education and therefore maintenance would not be payable.
The above being said, if you did stop payments to your daughter then she would be able to consider making a claim in her own right for support to the court under Schedule 1 of the Children Act. You daughter would have to make the claim in her own right. For such a claim to be succesful you would have to have the means to pay.
The order appears clear as to what should be paid and when this should be paid until. In relation to your impending redundancy, you could seek to vary the court order that you have but I doubt this this would be worth it given the maintenance is only payable until your daughter reaches 21 and the redundancy is not likely for 6 months. If you stop paying then your ex could seek enforcement against you.
The house needs to be valued. If your ex cant buy you out on a timescale that you agree too then you need to look to enforce the order for the house to besold so that your equit can be realised.
In relation to all matters you should consider family mediation. This is a way of trying to agree matters without the need for court. There are lots of family mediation services and there will be one local to you. Google family mediation in your area and give them a call to self refer.
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