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Please do accept my apologies for not being able to respond to you sooner.
I understand both you reasons for wanting to move out of London and also your reasons for wanting to move to Sweden.
In relation to Sweden - what you need to know is that you cannot move out of the Jurisdiction of England and Wales without the permission of everyone with Parental Responsibility. As the father holds parental responsibility if you did not obtain his permission then moving to Sweden could be considered as Child Abduction. A court would likely make an order for your child to be returned and you could be prosecuted through the criminal courts and sent to prison if found guilty.
If the father wont provide his permission then the option that you have is to make an application to court for the court to consider you permanent removal of your son from the jurisdiction.
You need to know that given the recent case law in this area this is not an easy application to make to court.
The court would make its decision based upon what was in your child's best interest. They would look at the quality of life, the schooling, the family support and also how the relationship with the father would be maintained. The court would only make the order if the court thought that it was best for your son.
In relation to a move out of London - whilst this is not a move out of the Jurisdiction and would therefore not be considered needing the fathers permission to do this - there are other issues that come to play. If the father disagreed with the move then he could make an application to court for your son to be returned. It is also likely that your sons school would have to change and the father could refuse to provide his permission for that. The court would have to deal with this by way of deciding the specific issue of your sons schooling and what would be best for him if you couldn't agree between you.
First step before you can make an application to court in relation to either the removal abroad or moving out of London and changing the schools would be to refer to mediation. This is a prerequisite before you make an application to court otherwise the court will reject your application.
There are lots of family mediation services and there will be one local to you. Google family mediation in your area and give them a call to self refer.
Mediation is independent and will try and help reach agreement between you without the need for court.
If agreement cannot be reached at mediation then the mediator will sign the form that you need to apply to court.
The court form is the C100 Form and there is a court fee payable when you apply to court of £215 although you may be eligible for a reduction or complete waiver of this fee depending upon your means.
The court would makes its decisions based upon what the court considered was in your sons best interests. The issues the father has raised about sweets and shoes are not of a child protection nature so these are not reasons that the court are going to think that you cannot have a relationship with your son and in reality as you have always been your sons main carer the court will want this stability to continue for your son. The crux for the court is the relationship with the father and this being maintained. The court is more likely to agree the move out of London rather than a move to Sweden for that reason.
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