Thank you for your response and for confirming that for me.
I am sorry to hear about the difficulties that you have had with the father.
What you need to know is that it is the position of the courts that children are entitled to a really good relationship with both of their parents and that this should prevail as long as there are no child protection concerns.
You have raised issues about the fathers commitment as well as a history of aggressive behaviour with one such incident occurring whilst you had your child in your arms.
The court will want to investigate the concerns that you have and decide what is safe for your son. It is not simply the case that because the father applies to court then the court will give him what he is asking for, its all about what is in your son's best interests.
Before the first hearing you will receive a telephone call from the Court Children and Families Officer (Cafcass). Cafcass will undertake police and social services checks for both of you so the father's criminal history will come up.
You need to tell Cafcass about how the father has treated you and the incident with your son in your arms. You also need to explain that you are concerned about the fathers lack of commitment. Its worth ringing them to make sure they have the correct telephone number for you and asking about the telephone appointment.
Cafcass are also present at the first court hearing and they tell the court about the issues that have been raised through the checks they have completed.
If safeguarding concerns are identified at that hearing then the court will likely ask Cafcass to complete a report for the court. This is known as a S7 report. Cafcass come and visit you for this report and they also make recommendations about how matters should progress to the court.
What you need to know is that the court is going to be wanting to make sure that your son is safe and they will progress contact, if they deem it safe to do so, at a pace that is suitable for your son. This is therefore not going to progress to unsupervised contact immediately. The father is going to have to show commitment and prove that he is not a risk.
You need to relax and be guided by the professionals making it clear what your worries are and the court will look at these for you.
If I can assist you further just ask
Please kindly remember to rate positively by using the stars so that credit is received for helping you today