Whether you see the children or not is not relevant to the payment of child maintenance.
I don’t know whether it’s your choice or the exes choice but it appears to be the exes choice and if it is, then you need to make an application to court for a Child Arrangement Order.
Here is the link to the Government webpage on Child Arrangement Orders.
There are lots of different Child arrangement orders.
They can include:
A Contact Order which specifies when parent sees a child,
Residence Order to determine who your child lives with,
Prohibited Steps Order to prevent a parent doing something with the child such as moving away
Specific Issue Order to allow a parent to do something specific with the child such as moving away.
Please note that before rushing off to court you have to have tried mediation first, even if it fails
You are liable to pay Child Maintenance at the CMS rates which are here
Do read the whole document but the basic rates start at the top of page 18.
Child maintenance is reduced by 1/7th for each 52 nights that the non-resident parent has the children.
Please note this is based upon income and not capital or savings. Also, whilst it does take into account any other children that you may pay maintenance for either in a new relationship or any previous relationships, your outgoings are not relevant if for example your rent and other outgoings are extremely high.
I’m sorry, I appreciate a lot of this is probably not the answer you wanted.
Can I clarify anything else for you?
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