The situation is relatively simple. If he won’t travel to collect them, then he doesn’t see them if you don’t want to do it.
The problem of course is that contact is not for his benefit it is for the benefit of the girls.
If however he is, for example, berating you in front of them, you clause make an application to court for a non-molestation order to prevent him doing that and to prevent him from doing that in front of children.
If he wants to take you to court, let him and deal with it. Tell him that. There is no legal aid and if he wants solicitors he is going to have to pay for it.
If you believe that he is harassing you by constantly ringing social services or doing anything else, then you can refer the matter to the police and ask them to warn him under the Protection from Harassment Act. That is in addition to a non-molestation order to prevent him coming within 100 metres of you.
Harassment is defined as a course of action (more than once) which is intended to harass, does harass, is reckless as to whether it harasses, or if the average bystander would look at the conduct and think that it was indeed harassment.
Harassment is both a civil matter and a criminal matter.
If you are being harassed. Go to the police and ask them to warn the ex-under the Protection from Harassment Act. Some police forces take that very seriously and others not so and therefore, you may need to speak to a senior officer or put a complaint in writing to the Chief Constable.
The constant threats are certainly harassment. He either has to issue court proceedings or leave you alone.
You are not getting child maintenance then you need to contact the Child Maintenance Service. Whether he has doesn’t have the children regardless of the reason, he is still obliged to pay child maintenance.
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