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Hi I’m in family court in 2 weeks because my daughters mum will not follow the parenting plan we agreed at mediation 18 moths ago.The agreement is I have my 6 year old every other weekend and a midweek evening for dinner but not over night.The agreement is that her mum would meet at location half way with my daughter where we would eat and I would drop my daughter back home when we’re done and in time for bedtime. Her mum refuses to drop her off but cos they live quite far away there’s not enough time for me to go get my daughter take her out then drop her back home, there’s just no places to eat where they live. So for over a year I’ve had no midweek time with my daughter also her mum takes away my weekends when ever she likes and when there have been exchanges her mum insists on bringing her boy friend who has confronted me in a threatening manor and also listens to our conversations from his vehicle which obviously makes exchanges very very uncomfortable. I’ve asked her mum to stop bringing him but he’s there wiv her everytime. When I am allowed weekends I have to pick her up and drop her off, her mum point blank refuses to do any journeys. There’s no problem with the transportation, 2 working vehicles in the house hold she just says if I want to see my daughter I’ll get her and pick her up. There’s been no abuse and I pay my maintenance every month, mum just refuses to follow parenting plan because she just doesn’t want to.Also in the holidays i get no extra days which I want to change. That’s pretty much my story leading up to court.My questions are will the court make her stick to our original and agreed parenting plan, every other weekend and midweek dinner with the already agreed transport of my daughter?Will I be given for example in half term holidays 1 or 2 extra days if I give enough notice to mum, and maybe a week or 2 in summer holidays.Also to improve communication and hostilities between me and mum can I ask for the boyfriend to not attend exchanges anymore?
OK, firstly apologies for the short delay in coming back to you.
My view on the basis of what you have stated is that yes, you should get the agreed plan of the midweek plus weekend contact agreed by the court, and there is no reason why the mother should not be sharing the transportation as far as I can see.
You would also be completely justified in asking for extra contact during school holiday time, and the court would most likely grant this.
The key is that you had a reasonable agreement, which has been continuously breached, also without good reason, and that you need the security of a court order to protect the precious time that you have with your daughter.
When people represent themselves in court it is easy to get into a 'tit for tat' exchange with the other side - remember that the court isn't deciding what's in your best interests, it's deciding what is in the best interests of your child. So always focus on that.
I hope this assists?
Yes I think that is a reasonable request, given the history. There's no reason he should be there.
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Your daughter should be allowed to have a photo of you in her room. And she should be able to call you too, mum shouldn't be able to prevent this.