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Hi, I'm Lea and I have reviewed your query.
Who is the child's main carer at present? Are you all still living in the same household?
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Is the father suggesting split child arrangements with the week split in the middle - so you have a weekend and so does he? Or that he has weekends and you have the working week?
It is unlikely that the court would change the current arrangements if the father is not going to be able to look after the child himself during his time. However, if you intend to work, then your status will be the same and whichever parent the child is with will still need to use childcare.
As you are the child's main carer, and have been for all this time, the court is also going to be unlikely to want to change the status quo unless there are safeguarding reasons, or unless it is deemed to be in the child's best interests for him to split his time between you. The usual order for the vast majority of non resident parents is every other weekend and a day in the other week, plus half school holidays.
You make reference to abuse, so the court is also likely to take that into consideration, if it was in front of the child, or is likely to have an impact on his welfare.
Does that clarify?
It is always best to try to come to some agreement between the two of you, rather than involve the courts if you can. If you can't come to an agreement together, then mediation may be able to assist you. You can find a suitable mediator here: https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/
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If you do have to go to court, you'll need form C100, which the mediator will need to sign before you submit it to court. You can find the form here: https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/734888/C100_eng_0818.pdf
This is a new question and should have been posted as such, but I will answer it briefly here.
A solicitor's letter has no more power than if your husband wrote the letter himself. Only a court has the power to order you to do something. Mediation is the preferable way to resolve things, but again, the mediator has no power to make you do something, only the court can order you to do that. You can ignore the solicitor's letter if you wish, but I would suggest you attend mediation given that is a requirement for attending court.
Legal Aid is available for mediation if you meet the criteria. You can find a mediator here: https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/