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If you have shared residence, then you do not have to pay towards the child maintenance. However, you can pay some towards the spousal maintenance. If you move out and she is on low income, she might also be entitled to state benefits as a single mother.
I have attached a template residence letter which you can amend according to your need. If this does not work and you can't come to an agreement, you can always take the help of a mediator as I previously mentioned.
Here is the link to find a mediator: https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/find-local-mediator/
Court should always be the last option.
I totally agree with you. You are being reasonable and fair.
Speak to her and say whether you can come to an agreement.
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