Hello Hayley, firstly, I am sorry to hear that you find yourself in this portion. So just to shed a little light on you legal portion, firstly, I understand your concerns. However, as you both have equal parental rights, you both have an equal stay in what happens with your daughter i.e. schooling, where she stays etc. so unless you can come to an agreement on this you are going to need assistance. The first step is going to mediation and if this doesn't work then you will have to go to court and the judge will look at the scenario and decide how shared access is going to work. I would highly suggest attempting to resolve this via mediation as court is expensive and once a ruling is made that is final! You should both take measures to ensure that you are acting in the child's best interest as this is all the court are concerned about. Also just for clarification, the fact you are in a same sex marriage makes no difference to any of this at all.
To find a mediator in your local area, use this site :
In order to apply to the court, you will need to fill out and send form C100 (copy attached) with a cheque of £215 payable to HMCTS to your local family court centre. Or you can ring the court and pay over the phone (or pay in person if you go directly to the court and pay at the counter). If you are on low income/have low savings you can apply for a fee exemption here:
Once you apply the court will list a hearing where you and your ex attends. There will be a family advisor there too (from Cafcass) and if arrangements can be agreed then a consent order will be drawn up.
I hope this information has helped. You can find a local solicitor who deals with this on the law society webpage which is;
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