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Your husband couldn't be any more wrong, that is such an old fashioned view and not one the court takes. The fact that you were a stay at home mum doesn't mean you are likely entitled to 50% of the house etc. You may also be eligible for maintenance, particularly if you are going to be the main carer of the children when you no longer live together.
If you wish, you might be able to get an order that you and the children are allowed to stay in the home until they turn 18, to the exclusion of your husband.
I'd suggest booking a consultation with a solicitor. You can find a local family solicitor here: https://solicitors.lawsociety.org.uk. If you have been the victim of domestic abuse at all (which can include financial abuse/ emotional control) then you might be eligible for legal aid.
Even if you have to represent yourself at court, the judge will see to it that you are not disadvantaged. The court would never allow a settlement where he gets everything and you get nothing in these circumstances.
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