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Hi, I'm Lea
What was the conviction for? Why do SS feel it necessary for the children to be informed if you don't have contact with them?
Please read the following:
Against a child?
Is it the 13 and 15 year old SS wish to inform?
Who do they live with?
So what reason have SS given for wanting to inform the children?
I suspect the reason SS are concerned is because you have said that you may have contact in the future, so they want to ensure before that occurs that the teenagers are already in possession of the information that SS feels they need in order to safeguard themselves.
Unfortunately, given the type of offence, it is never spent, and anyone with children who has a relationship with you will always be informed, and in the case of older children, they will also be informed. It's about transparency and safeguarding, which you clearly understand, and unfortunately someone's normal rights for privacy (yours in this case) have to be bypassed in order to protect others. There isn't anything that you can do to stop SS taking action about this and informing the children.
Yes, I am inclined to agree with you that your partner is better placed to inform her children. At least that way the mother can answer any questions they have. SS will undoubtedly still want to speak to the children to double check that they have been given accurate information - but as you say, when this occurs the children can say that their mother already informed them.
Once the children are aware, it may be possible for you to spend time with them whilst with their mum. That is likely to be something that SS will want to monitor initially.