Thank you for your enquiry thankfully I can help with this matter. So firstly, if you and your ex have agreed contact with the child then I would hope that she will adhere to this. However, if she does not let you spend time (or a reasonable amount of time) with the child the first thing to do is ALWAYS see if you can work it out between the two of you. The last thing you want is to involve the courts unless absolutely necessary. I would just like to point out that if you financial circumstances change, your maintenance payments should also change to reflect that same change, however, paying maintenance doesn't give you any additional right to contact with a child they are very separate issues. If you ex is not letting you see the child and is not willing to speak about contact then the first road is mediation, if this does not work then you will have to look at a court case and a judge will look at the situation presented and make an order (which is legally enforceable) in relation to giving you contact with your child.
To find a mediator in your local area, use this site :
In order to apply to the court, you will need to fill out and send form C100 (copy attached) with a cheque of £215 payable to HMCTS to your local family court centre. Or you can ring the court and pay over the phone (or pay in person if you go directly to the court and pay at the counter). If you are on low income/have low savings you can apply for a fee exemption here:
Once you apply the court will list a hearing where you and your ex attends. There will be a family advisor there too (from Cafcass) and if arrangements can be agreed then a consent order will be drawn up.
I hope this information has helped. You can find a local solicitor who deals with this on the law society webpage which is;
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