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Good evening. I often have a number of personal commitments over the weekend so I may take a little while to get back to you but I'm grateful for your patience. With regard to the non mol return hearing, the court will probably direct you to prepare a statement in response to her statement and give your side of the story. Alternatively, the court may ask you if you're prepared to accept the non-molestation order for 6 months. This could be quite dangerous as non-mols come with a power of arrest which is powerful weapon. From what you're telling me, it sounds like your ex is a bit of an attention-seeking fantasist who would think nothing about calling the police to get you arrested if you so much as sent her a message asking how your daughter was.
If you want to compromise the court hearing, you could offer to give an undertaking which is a promise to the court that you won't harass, intimidate or pester her. An undertaking does not come with a power of arrest. Your ex would have to make an application for committal if she wanted to accuse you of breaching an undertaking. This is very difficult to do as it is a long and complex application and the courts are actively looking for excuses to dismiss all but the most serious.
If your ex refuses to accept an undertaking, the court will direct you to file and serve a statement and list the matter for a final hearing where you and her would have to give evidence under cross-examination. If necessary, you could call witnesses. At the end of the hearing, the judge will decide whether or not to impose the non-molestation upon you for 6 or 12 months. To avoid all this faff, I genuinely recommend you suggest giving undertakings but with the proviso that 'you do not accept the allegations that your ex is making but to compromise the proceedings and concentrate on sorting out contact with your daughter, you are willing to give an undertaking to the court."
I hope that helps. Please let me know if you need any further assistance. Kind regards, J