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Hi, I’m Lea and I will be assisting you with your query today.
I am very sorry to hear about your dilemma, but will do my best to provide you with advice and guidance on what to do next. Are you habitually resident in Cyprus or there just for a holiday/short period of time/temporarily? How long have you been away?
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But when you moved there, was it with the intention of making it a permanent home or for a temporary visit? Do you still maintain a home in the UK?
You can return without his consent. You went for a holiday and your habitual residence is here in the UK, and therefore you are free to return to the UK as soon as travel is allowable from where you are - and bearing in mind any requirements for quarantine when you arrive back in the UK.
You don't need his consent to return home - you'd need his consent if you had become habitually resident in Cyprus, but nothing you state suggests that was the intention when you went there, and the pandemic does not change that intent. If you have a home in the UK it seems obvious that you intended to return.
If you need assistance you should approach the British Embassy. https://www.gov.uk/world/organisations/british-high-commission-nicosia
Oh, and when you are back in the UK I would strongly suggest you apply for a) a non molestation order so that he cannot abuse you any further and b) a prohibited steps order to prevent him taking the child out of your care or removing her from the UK with your consent or the leave of a court.
You can do so on form FL401 - free application - see NCDV.org.uk for help with this application
And C100 - cost is £215, unless you are on benefits/low income in which case also complete form EX160.
You can get assistance from Women's Aid on your return if you need it. His actions at retaining you in Cyprus by force or threat are inappropriately abusive and controlling.
The courts will recognise that depression is a facet of being forced to remain away from your home and country. He is being abusive.
Your first concern is to get back to the UK - then you can take further action to protect yourself. I would strongly suggest that if you can get flights and get away whilst he is away from the home that might be the better option for you, rather than trying to confront him before leaving. Deal with him when you are back on familiar territory with family and friends to support you.
But you said you were not resident there - just there for a holiday?
In other words he coerced you to leave the UK under false pretences and then applied to force you to stay. That is coercive control . You need to contact the embassy again and tell them that you need assistance with leaving the country that you did not consent to more than a holiday and that you and your child are being retained against your will.
in that case, ify ou have made steps (even if it is him, not you) to integrate into society, then you will need his consent to take the child back to the UK.
Of course, my view remains that you were coerced into this, so if you did get a flight back with the child and apply for a prohibited steps order on your return and an NMO as suggested above, it would leave him to have to make an application to the court to say you'd abducted her...you'll then get the chance to explain why you left, i.e. because it had not been intended to be permanent.
The decision is obviously yours as to what you do. The last resort is to apply to the Cypriot courts - but you are then acknowledging that they have jurisdiction, so will then have to abide by their decisions. You may prefer to leave and take your chances with the English legal system. As I said, the choice is yours.
You need to decide what you want to do and then do it. Nothing will change until you do something.