Thank you for all of the information - I appreciate how difficult this is even to just commit to the page.
So, there are two separate issues here. One is divorce (including the financial arrangements) and the second is the issue of occupation in the short term, of the family home. Obviously the long term would be decided by the judge in the divorce hearing, if not agreed.
Firstly, the issue of an occupation order. There is some difficulty, but it's not insurmountable. The fact you have been back together since the offences/ restraining order undermines your position and the need for urgency. However, as I said, it's not impossible to succeed in this case. You are the victim of an absuve relationship, with family pressures, and your narrative will show the court how you have been forced back into this situation whereas in reality you need to be given the space and freedom to work out your future away from the coercive control of your husband and family. So on balance I do think you have a good case for an occupation order.
It's the FL401 form that you need, available at www.gov.uk.
There's no fee for the application. You may qualify for legal aid but this depends on your bearings and assets and you would need to go through an application for that with a solicitor in person - my view is that you are clearly articulate and could represent your self in this case.
You would need to write a witness statement, to give the context.
As to the divorce - you have grounds under unreasonable behaviour.
All of the information on application is on the www.gov.uk website.
Regarding the financial arrangements, I'll give you the general pointers:
1. With property purchased prior to marriage or assets acquired prior to marriage, the starting point is that these are EXCLUDED from the joint asset pot.
2. With property or assets acquired after the date of marriage, the starting point as that this is INCLUDED in the joint asset pot.
3. It does not matter who contributed what during the marriage, all assets acquired after the date of marriage are considered to be jointly owned regardless of who paid what. This means one party will still own half of the asset purchased after the date of marriage even if the other party paid for it all.
4. Claims on pensions should be limited to a share of the amount accrued in the fund during the length of the marriage, with marriages that are relatively short, but with a longer marriage pensions are more often shared.
5. If you both work now, there should not be claim for maintenance. In the case where one spouse earns significantly more than the other maintenance could be an issue.
6. The court can depart from the general principles if it is deemed fair to do so and the needs of the parties dictate that it is necessary to do so. The needs of children are also relevant, and if you are your daughter's main carer you may be able to claim more of the assets as a result.
I hope this assists in setting out the legal framework for you?
Can I clarify anything further?