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What is your legal question about this please?
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You and the mother (if you are named on the birth certificates or were married to her at the time of the births of the children) have the exact same parental responsibility. So she cannot dictate to you anymore than you can dictate to her what time each of you spend with the children.
That said, that is the legal position, but the position on the ground is likely to be very different, with one of you having more care of the children than the other, and as a result that person thinks they should be able to make decisions by themselves. She shouldn't be reducing your contact unless there are valid, safeguarding reasons for doing so - but just because she 'shouldn't' doesn't mean she won't, and realistically the only way to resolve this is by getting a court order in place.
Mediation is admirable, and I wish more people would use it effectively and come to an agreement over the children that way - but the reality is that even if there is an agreement that way, it's not binding on either of you in the same way a court order would be.
I'd suggest the first item on the agenda for the mediation is that the contact remains the same until a new agreement is made between you.
Yes you can get the agreement sealed into a court order.
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