Thank you for the question, obviously from the letter moving forward your ex wants you to have contact with your children at a contact centre. They will be considering this a safeguarding issue. You are under no obligation to accept this, however if you do not your ex may stop contact. If that is the case you would have to use the ordinary cause procedure and intimate an initial writ to get a child welfare hearing. At this hearing, a judge will listen to all the relevant facts and make an order in relation to how contact takes place. Until there is a legal order you are not legally obliged to accept anything.
I shall provide you with a helpful link that will assist you in finding a solicitor/representative near your local area. This will provide you with someone nearby your area who can assist you if required.
I hope this information proved helpful. You will find a local solicitor who deals with these matters on the law society webpage which is as follows;
https://www.lawsoc-ni.org/solicitors (N. Ireland)
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