I am visiting every day and am trying to take the children out as it is the end of summer holidays. I have done some trips away for work and my son has come with me.
I have only been out of the familly home a week. I left as my wife was revieling what she was upto bit by bit each day to the point I couldnt sleep and I was starting to suffer from anxiety attacks. We tried Relate Councilling, but this seemed to egg her onto start to make unrelenting personal attacks so I figured I should leave temprarily to try and cool things down and get my health and sleep paterns back. My son inititalliy came with me but I wanted him to return home so he was settled for a return to school.
My doctor signed me of for the last 4 days and I have used them to regroup. Hence making atempts to seek a plan for what is going on. I have discussed moving back into the house but have been told now she would leave to stay with friends and take my daughter with her.
I have discussed things today with my wife and we have agreed some simple principles to move forward with...But things remain strained and she seems intent on pursuing an afair away from the household, which means she is often away.
I am not seeking sole custody here...I dont feel that would be good...I just want to understand what can and can't be done prior to mediation, when things are not on a great footing.
For the avoidance of any doubt I dont think my children are at risk. I simply feel there is a confused set of priorities that are going to lead to issues later. My wife today seemed to agree this but is still pretty angry and so reluctant to plan. I feel better for the discussion but still am unsure of what may happen.