I have been going through a nasty divorce by cross petition which involved alot of court appearances due to my ex husband's awkwardness dealing with my son's access arrangements (as there was domestic violence issue etc) and preparation for trials. It's been very stressful and need the help of the physchological services to keep as sane as possible really. My ex husband was ruthless,manipulative, lying alot and was very abusive in the marriage before all his legal manipulationsas well. At the same time my son was taken ill with serious kidney condition and in and out of the children's hospital. It was perhaps one of those trips to hospital that seemed to have led to this allegation overspeeding which was not delibrate; my work was falling apart and my whole world really. I was diaglosed with low mood/botherline depression and was ill. I shut down to cope and did not open my letters or dealt with anything other than making sure I coped with my son's needs and struggled with work since the begining of the year.
I unexpextedly got the District Judge's permission granted to divorce him by cross petiton - at a case management conference hijacked by his barrister to condict her own mini trial without any withnesses present except me. upon my responses, as I had no barrister present, they pleaded to withdraw allegations against me and would not contest my cross prayer and allegations. The decree NISI wouldbe pronouced on 12 November.
I am just beginnig to address a number of things affected by that period. I have just started to open my mails. I have seence found the notice sent. I would not have deliberately ignored such letter. I was not coping and since I normally recieve junk letters it seemed my posts are one thing not to bother about. I struggle as I am disabled and unwell most of that time too.
I am a disabled driver and I am very careful and this is the only way i can secure my mobility to do things. I have been driving for more than 25 years and a I have clean driving licence.
I am a responsible driver and would not intentionally exceed speed limit. Also I have have just changed my motability car just before this alleged offence and still getting used tot he softer pedal to theone I was driving before. I drive everywhere in my job too otherwise I could not do my work.
I worry about the consequential effects of conviction. this is most unfortunate as I am just beginnig to re organise my life and then this.
Do you think the court could take these issues into account in this case? I would like to keep my driving licence clean as this could affect my work and personal life, perhaps disproportionately for an unintended offence?
Any suggestion you could have for me to achieve this would be helpful.