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Clare, Solicitor
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My partner is going through a brake down due to his

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Hello... My partner is going through a brake down due to his ex wife causing extrem threats.
She is using the children as weapons and has told my partner he has a choice either a relationship or his son who's autistic and James will not except anyone in his dad's life. She has told her son that my partner doesn't like him and he wants to spend all of his spare time with me and his daughter. James is not biologically my partners child. However my partner pays for both kids provides a stable clean inviroment for both kids. I also get threatend via txt to my partner from her.... My partner is scared that if he was to get legal help she would win and he would not see his children. Regards Louise
HiThank you for your questionMy name is***** shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first.How old are the chidlren and what is the current pattern of contact?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
The girl is 10 and the boy is 12. Monday Tuesday and every other weekend they are with there dad. The rest of the time there with the mother.
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Did you get my last response. Louise
Have you met the children and spent time with them?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Yes but she has stopped that now I have no contact with them for nearly a year. My partners ex doesn't stop the girl seeing me as she is biologically my partners but as James wasn't fathered by my partner she controls him more... I stay away from them as its too much hassle . It has caused lots of problems in our relationship. She has threatened to smash my car up if she sees it outside my partners house and lucky she doesn't know where I live.
When you did see them did you get on well with the children?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Yeah .. Didn't really speak much with James because he's not chatty due to having autism and Lucy gets on well with me ... I've given her pony rides on my horse . The issue is there mother . I just want to know where my partner stands legally because it has to stop.
The law states that children are entitled to Contact with both parents and the courts can and will enforce this if necessary.The fact that the child i snot your partner's biological son will not change this as it is about the needs of the children and not the adults.Clearly the boy sees your partner as his father and they have always had a father son relationship and on that basis the court would treat both chidlren in the same way.The mother has no right to try and control your partner in this way and if the matter does go to court she will not win.The starting point is for him to try and discuss matters with her using Family mediation it plain that he will no longer allow his ex to control him.I hope that this is of assistance - please ask if you need further detailsClare
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