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Experience:  Family Law - Specialist in Divorce, Financial Relief and Children Matters
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My son is 10 years old I split from his father when he was

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My son is 10 years old I split from his father when he was 3 years old he has him most Sundays for 3/4 hours, my son has been scouted by a premiere league club which require him to train 3 days a week Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday and then matches on Sunday, I've said that I will bring him to see him straight after training on a Saturday or Sundays after the match he told me that I'm stopping him from seeing his son I told him he could have him in the week maybe pick him up from school and then I can collect him from his house, he works from 6 to 2pm so in my eyes this is possible, he said he's busy and cant. I told him that why doesn't he take him to training and he said its too far, so I said but surely you can make sacrifices, I've taken time off work so I can take him !! he didn't reply. I want to know can he stop my son from going to football ? Football is his life and he will be devastated if he cant go. Please help
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Law
Expert:  Harris replied 2 years ago.
Hi, thanks for your question.
You will need to decide what is in your son's best interests. He has a right to follow his progress in his football given he has been scouted, and he also has a right to a relationship with his father.
However, you have provided the father with reasonable alternative proposals and given the change in your son's routine the father should be accommodating towards this.
I would suggest that, in the first instance you make a referral to an independent mediator to attempt to reach an agreement if matters cannot be settled directly with him. You can find local mediators here:
In the event that no agreement can be reached it would be for the father to pursue an application to court for a child arrangement order if he does not agree to any of your proposals.
Please let me know if you have any further questions regarding this.
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
If he goes through the route of taking me to court will a court listen to what my son wants, he cries each time he has to go but its always been me who has encouraged him to go as I say its important. I am not stopping his father from seeing him I'm just asking him to try and re-arrange his time so he is able to see him. It's his dad who is saying he cant see him during the week because he might have plans. I have told him that on a Saturday after training which is 12 O'clock I will bring him to wherever he is and pick him up, I have also said I will do the same on Sundays. Will a judge listen to what my son wants ? Thank you
Expert:  Harris replied 2 years ago.
Given that your son is 10 years old and there is a major change to his life with the scouting, you can ask the CAFCASS officer (who is an independent person appointed by the court to make recommendations, and speaks to you and the father) to also speak to your son. If it comes to it, you can also ask for the Judge to speak to him directly. The Judge will consider what is in your son's best interest and not necessarily what your son wants, but from what you have said it appears that the current change to his life warrants a change to the contact arrangements.
Expert:  Harris replied 2 years ago.
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