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Hello Max, my name is Marcus.
I am sorry that you are having a difficult time.
I presume that you've previously had contact and that returning slightly late is the only reason contact has been stopped.
Your son has the right to a meaningful relationship with you and if mother is difficult you can make an application to the court for a child arrangement order to safeguard the time your son spends with you.
The alternative is to attend mediation to try and agree something. Sadly though if you do so there is no guarantee that she will adhere and therefore you could find yourself in the position of then having to go to court.
If you are minded to make an application to the court I can provide you guidance of how to do so if you intend to make the application yourself.
The court place significant importance on children spending meaningful time with both their parents and are pretty robust in making orders to ensure it happens.
In honesty that is a good level of contact at the stage.
If this is to continue then it is better to avoid going to court for sure.
For the sake of completeness in the future the level of contact you should expect would be every other weekend from Friday to Monday, half of all holidays and one or two nights in the week.
The weekday nights of course subject to you living relatively close and therefore being able to take your son to school in the morning.
For now however it is a case of building up contact gradually to the above level.
It does sound like you are on the right tracks and therefore if contact is to continue then just keep things as they are.
You only need to go to court if contact is stopped or not progressing in the way you would like.
I am sorry for the delay in responding.
Maybe just give it a few days. Often stopping contact is a knee jerk reaction.
If however it does not blow over then you would have no option but to make an application to the court to ensure that your son spends time with you.
As I say the court are very robust and will order contact. You are in a good position as you have previously had contact and it was stopped for no good reason.
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Do you think that she will stop contact for sure and not reinstate it.
It seems matters are escalating from stopping contact for being late to now suggesting you take drugs.
As you say that can be rebutted by a hair strand test.
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If there is no prospect of her reinstating contact then you have no choice other than to apply to the court.
You can apply yourself - see link below.
If you want a Solicitor then the CAB would be able to identify a suitable Solicitor.
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I am sorry matters are getting worse although in a funny way such false allegations help as it shows her hostility.
As advised previously you should apply to the court for a Child Arrangement Order. In doing so you need to agree handovers in such s way that false allegations cannot be made such as use a public venue or ask a third party to help.
You just need to protect yourself and not place yourself in a position that further allegations can be made against you.
Sorry - in honesty I am in 2 minds.
My initial reaction is to reply saying that she should not attend and that you will not be.
However on balance I would be minded to allow her collect your son's stuff as it is further demonstration of her hostility - but I would suggest you go out and let someone else be there in your place.
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