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Hi there. I have recently split from my partner and he has access to his son every other week from Friday to Sunday. However, he is verbally abusive to me on a daily basis and wants to see his son more but it is not something that will work because he finishes work at 6pm and its my sons bed time. Is it possible that i can get an agreement written up regarding his dates?
Assistant: What steps have you taken? Have you filed any papers in family court?
Customer: Havent taken those steps. Just an agreement between us
Assistant: Family Court normally sits in a local County and Magistrates' Court. Do you know the location of the court? If not, what county do you live in?
Customer: I wouldnt like this to go to court. I was wondering if i could get an agreement written up without the courts or more information about what my next steps should be. I live in London
Assistant: Anything else you want the Lawyer to know before I connect you?
Customer: He has access to his son every two weeks and wants more time but it is not practical so will need some advice please. Thank you

Hi thank you for your message, yes this is possible I would recommend a child arrangement court order such an order can set out who looks after the child and when. Such an order once made can be enforced if it is breached. In order to do this, you will need to arrange for and attend a mediation appointment with your ex first to see if an order can be agreed. Even if you and your ex end up having to go to court to sort out the differences, you will normally need to prove that you’ve been to a mediation information and assessment meeting (MIAM). This is an introductory meeting to explain what mediation is and how it might help you. If your ex doesn't want to see a mediator, you should go to the MIAM on your own. You’ll then be able to prove you’ve tried mediation if you later want to go court. You can’t force your ex to go to mediation. In order to find a mediator you can use this link on the Family Mediation Council website here: https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/find-local-mediator/

You’ll normally have to pay about £30 for an MIAM, although sometimes this first meeting is free. Follow-up sessions usually cost you and your ex about £80 each - most people need to go to 3 or 4.

The cost of mediation varies depending on where you live. Phone around to find the best price, but bear in mind the cheapest might not be the best.

If the MIAM does not work and you not able to agree to mediation you will need to go to court. This will require you to fill out form C100 which can be found here: https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/form-c100-application-under-the-children-act-1989-for-a-child-arrangements-prohibited-steps-specific-issue-section-8-order-or-to-vary-or-discharge

You can find guidance on filling out the application here: https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/family-court-applications-that-involve-children-cb1

Send the original form and 3 copies of it to the nearest court that deals with children, you can find your nearest court here: https://www.gov.uk/looking-after-children-divorce/apply-for-court-order

The application will cost £215. If you want to find a solicitor to assist with this process and represent you at the hearing you can find a solicitor using the Law Society find a solicitor search option here: https://solicitors.lawsociety.org.uk. You can search by town or postcode to find one near you, as well as area of law in this case family law. I hope this helps, if you can please accept my answer and rate me 5 stars (in the top right of your screen) then Just Answer will credit me for helping you today.

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