If you feel that he is intimidating or bullying you or exerting financial pressure/coercive behaviour can apply to court for a non-molestation order to prevent him coming within 100 m of you and an occupation order for him to move out of the house.
Here are the government webpages on exactly this subject. https://www.gov.uk/injunction-domestic-violence
There doesn't actually have to be physical violence per se because there can be coercive behaviour for example as you will read in this excellent article: https://rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-information/violence-against-women-and-international-law/domestic-violence-injunctions/
Unless a sale of the house produces enough money for the parent looking after the child(ren), the resident parent, until the youngest reaches 18 and produces a surplus for the non-resident parent, the sale of the house is not on the cards until the youngest child reaches 18.
Both parents are under a duty to provide a home for dependent children until they reach 18. Only then would the house be sold.
In your situation, you may be able to hang onto the house for another three years because there would certainly not be enough equity to provide a home for you and the children.
Unfortunately, a person is not responsible for the mortgage or rent or the bills of a house that they do not live in although they remain liable to the lender or landlord if the other person stays in the property and doesn’t pay the mortgage or rent.
In that case, the non-occupier would be entitled to recover any mortgage or rental payments made by the non-occupier, from the occupier within the finances of the breakup of the relationship/marriage.
That means that if you did boot him out, or the court booted him out, you would be faced with paying the mortgage and the bills.
The court will not normally get involved in domestic finances unless you have started divorce or legal separation proceedings.
Provided that at least one of the people wishing to get divorced lives in England, then getting divorced in England (& Wales) is infinitely a do-it-yourself job. (I am not familiar with the system in Scotland)
Save yourself a whole load of money: the government website have a do-it-yourself guide
Although you can agree finances between you, it doesn’t draw a line under it unless you have a financial order
And if have children under 18, and you cannot agree who they live with and who sees who and when, then you need a child arrangement order (which includes Specific Issue Orders:
To confirm that something can happen
and a Prohibited Steps Orders
To stop something happening
In the United Kingdom, we do not have “irreconcilable differences”. That is a thing in the United States for the time being at least. The rules are changing here shortly to get rid of the following 5 grounds of divorce and to get rid of the fault issue but that has yet to be enacted. To be honest, in my opinion, it’s going to make very little difference because the big arguments are over finance and children not the actual divorce itself.
It doesn’t matter who divorce is who or why, the financial issues are exactly the same. The court has not apportioned blame with regard to the division of marital finances for many years.
Grounds for getting divorced are:
1 The couple have lived part 2 years or more but less than 5 years and they both consent to the divorce.
2 The couple have lived apart for 5 years or more, regardless of whether they both consent or not.
3 Desertion. Not common.
4 Adultery. Very difficult to prove unless there is unequivocal evidence or an admission.
5 Unreasonable behaviour. Most common and relatively easily to put together a petition on these grounds. For example:
A spouse wants an unreasonable amount of sex/never once it.
Lack of personal hygiene/obsessive personal hygiene.
Obsessively tidy/extremely messy and untidy.
Gambles to excess/it’s tightfisted with money.
Never interacts with spouse or children/obsessive with children.
Violent or bullying or intimidating.
Lots of grounds.
There is no point, with children at 15 years of age, applying for a Child arrangement order because the court would not normally get involved as they are deemed to be old enough to make their own mind up.
As part of the divorce process, you may want to apply for a financial order:
Which draws a line under the finances of the marriage and prevents either of you coming back to the other, in some years time, asking for more money if circumstances have changed (the lottery?).
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