The offer of a telephone call comes out automatically. It’s optional. You can just ignore it or request it later.
We can continue on here.
If your wife has instructed solicitors, then go through the solicitors. She is the one who is paying for it.
What she can’t do is ask you to go through solicitors every time you want to arrange contact because that’s going to be totally impractical and you need to raise that issue with the solicitors and ask them to confirm that if they want all requests to come through them, if you make a request, they will come back to you within an hour. Ask them for an undertaking in that respect. They will not give it. If they will not give you an undertaking to reply to a reasonable request in respect of arranging contact, within an hour, tell them that you will only communicate with their client in respect of arranging contact but you will correspond with them for everything else.
Collaborative law is one of these newfangled things to try to get people to avoid court but in all honesty it was going to work, it would work without the involvement of the collaborative process.
If she wants to go to mediation, then troll along. You are only bound by it if you both come to common understanding and you can always walk out if you don’t like the way it’s going. You have to try it before going to our regardless.
It will not work unless one of you is prepared to change your stance. Moving back to the contact through the solicitor regarding day-to-day care of children, I agree it’s ludicrous. However I don’t why you say it seems crazy that you have to pay every time you need to speak to her regarding your daughters. She is paying the solicitors costs, not you and if they want that money from you, tell them to get lost.
You need to remember that the solicitors will be thrilled to bits that all the correspondences coming through them because they will be charging 30 pounds for each letter in and each letter out in the same for each telephone call. Oh how the money comes rolling in!
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