I am a UK trained Barrister. I practice at the civil court.
Here is the Defamation Act for you to peruse:
I recommend that you have a look at the Act itself so that you may be reassured as to any concerns you may have. I understand your concerns, however I find I have answered your question. For your estranged partner to say your written words are defamatory you must have, in these circumstance:
- published something; and
- in writing, print or some other permanent form.
In addition, he must show that:
The published statement has caused or is likely to cause serious harm to his reputation.
The above factors must be present in order for him to bring a successful claim therefore.
It goes without saying that if you have not mentioned his name or anything that identifies him that he would not be able to establish that your post is speaking about him. He would also not be able to show that a post that does not identify him specifically damaged his reputation.
whilst I do appreciate your concerns, I do not believe I could be any clearer on the issue.