The Child Maintenance Service will not normally take into account any lump-sum payments so it was probably not one of your best ideas to do what she convinced you to do.
Also, you cannot make payment in kind and deduct it. It has to be money paid by you, the paying parent, to the receiving parent.
The court will not get involved with where the 16 year old lives. The 16-year-old wants to live with you, then just do it.
Courts will not normally separate siblings and with the youngest child at 12 years of age, the court will take note of what the child wants.
I don’t know whether social services have been involved or whether the doctor will provide any evidence that the faking of the illness is related to any neglect by the mother but it may be that they may both be your best friends in supporting your application.
If police and social services were involved then I think you can raise that, but although it was the 16 year old that was assaulted, you are concerned for the 12-year-olds welfare. I can see no reason therefore why you would want 50-50 and you shouldn’t go for 100%. The girls would not get dragged through court. Firstly, as I said, the 16 year old can basically do what she wants and it would be a Cafcass officer that would interview the children and provide a report to support either you or her. It should be independent report.
What you are looking for is a Child arrangement order. At this stage, save your money and stop the process yourself. You only need to go to solicitors if you feel that you are getting out of your depth because you can ask an awful lot of questions on here for just one GBP250 hour that a solicitor would charge.
Here is the link to the Government webpage on Child Arrangement Orders.
There are lots of different Child arrangement orders.
They can include:
A Contact Order which specifies when parent sees a child,
Residence Order to determine who your child lives with,
Prohibited Steps Order to prevent a parent doing something with the child such as moving away
Specific Issue Order to allow a parent to do something specific with the child such as moving away.
Please note that before rushing off to court you have to have tried mediation first, even if it fails
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