I have just noticed that you are in Northern Ireland and although the provisions are the same on the mainland, the process is different in Northern Ireland.
You need to place a charge against the property which will stop him selling or remortgaging it without coming to a deal with you.
This is the relevant legislation: https://www.legislation.gov.uk/nisi/1998/1071/crossheading/rights-to-occupy-matrimonial-home/made
Unfortunately, it’s not really a do-it-yourself job unlike the mainland where we have a standard form to submit. A Boy Scout could do it over here.
For that, you are going to need to see a solicitor I’m afraid.
With regard to you running the property if he is no longer in it, Unless a sale of the house produces enough money for the parent looking after the child(ren), the resident parent, until the youngest reaches 18 and produces a surplus for the non-resident parent, the sale of the house is not on the cards until the youngest child reaches 18.
Both parents are under a duty to provide a home for dependent children until they reach 18. Only then would the house be sold.
You have a four year old daughter and if you are going to be the main carer of the child, there is a good possibility that you could hang onto the house for another 14 years before it gets sold although you would be responsible for the bills in the interim.
A person is not responsible for the mortgage or rent or the bills of a house that they do not live in although they remain liable to the lender or landlord if the other person stays in the property and doesn’t pay the mortgage or rent.
In that case, the non-occupier would be entitled to recover any mortgage or rental payments made by the non-occupier, from the occupier within the finances of the breakup of the relationship/marriage.
It doesn’t matter whether the house is in his name or your name or joint names, your financial interest is the same. My advice to you, the same as the advice to any person in your situation is don’t move out. It doesn’t affect your financial status but it does mean that you lose a large element of control.
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