To be frank, there is no point in reporting things to the police if you don’t want her to be arrested and charged.
The courts will rarely break up siblings and therefore unless there is a compelling reason why they should go to different parents, they will both go to the same parent.
You’re probably going to need a Child arrangement order.
You would use the evidence of the violence reports to support your application for the children to live with you.
Fortunately, there is a lot of information on the Internet about Child Arrangement orders and the government have actually produced a guide on the subject which is here.
The different types of Child Arrangement order are:
1 A Contact Order which specifies when parent sees a child,
2 A Residence Order to determine who the child lives with,
3 A Prohibited Steps Order to prevent a parent doing something with the child such as moving away either in this country miles away or taking the child to another country. Particularly relevant if there is a chance that the parent would go to another country and never return. The parent wishing to prevent the move would have to convince the court why it’s not in the best interest of the child to move. Friends, support, school et cetera et cetera all taken into account.
A Prohibited Steps Order is to prevent child Abduction and it’s one of the few areas of law for which legal aid is sometimes still available. It’s often therefore worth seeing a solicitor.
4 A Specific Issue Order to allow a parent to do something specific with the child such as moving away to another part of the country or indeed to another country. . The parent wishing to move would have to prove why it’s not in the best interest of the child to move.. Friends, support, school et cetera et cetera all taken into account. It would also encompass things such as changing school if the parents cannot agree, changing the child's name, and anything other specific.
The courts will not get involved in a Contact or Residence order unless the couple have been to mediation first. So the couple would have to try mediation even if it subsequently fails and the matter proceeds to court.
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