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Hello. I'm Dr. Phil, licensed and practicing internist. Excellent service is my goal.
Hi I'm Dr. Phil. Can I ask your first name?
Hi Sue. Nice to meet you
How can I help Sue?
I have posted my problem. Are you able to view?
Yes, I can see it.
Does your son have family there he can stay with?
No family at all, just my elderly parents who are 88 and 89
So he can't stay there for the year?
No, father in care home, mother frail
Does he know you want to move back yet?
Yes and hes very upset
Didn't you apologize to him?
of course. We are very close. That doesnt alter that ive messed him around. Thats a difficult thing to get over
I see. That's good. I think that is all you can do Sue. Be honest, love and support him.
Im worried about depression. Hes extremely sensitive
Maybe counseling would be appropriate?
As a preventative
Good idea. I keep thinking im a bad parent for messing him around, but it was unintentional
Stop blaming yourself Sue.
You have to be happy for him to be happy
You have a right to be happy
That is so true. I guess im just so used to caring for everyone else, i forget myself. Its just a parent thing though, isnt it, to protect your young from upset and danger!
absolutely. I have kids too so I understand.
I think counseling is a good idea and maybe arranging weekend trips to see his friends
in the old city
I do agree about the counseling. A great idea where he can offload. Sadly, his friends from the old town dont want to know him anymore. Theyve all moved on with their lives
That's too bad his friends moved on.
I would just show love and support and look into counseling.
He will adapt.
You sound like a good mom Sue :)
Thank you. That is what my friend and my Mum said too. :) I appreciate the chat. Sometimes just talking to someone independant clarifies the situation.
you're welcome :)
Did I do excellent for you today
You did!! Thank you so much. You said what i was actually hoping you would say :) Goodnight
Thank you :)
Please don't forget an excellent rating. I appreciate it
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