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The likelihood of developing HIV from this encounter would be about 0.005% if she is HIV positive and not being treated, which also means that there is a 99.995% likelihood that you would not contract HIV. The portion of the encounter that entails the greatest risk is the protected penile-vaginal sex. Condoms are excellent at decreasing the risk, but they do not work 100% of the time. It is this portion of the encounter that carries an average risk of about 0.005%. The oral sex that was performed on you would be a much lower risk. There also is some risk associated with performing oral sex on her, but the risk of performing oral sex on a female is so low that it is impossible to estimate an average risk. There have been some cases in which this was the mode of transmission, but there has only been very few cases.
The risk for gonorrhea and chlamydia are greater. If she is positive for chlamydia, that risk would be about 5-10%%. If she is positive for gonorrhea, the risk would be about 1-2%.. If she is positive for genital herpes and is actively shedding the virus, then the risk of transmission is about 10%. The overall risk of transmission of genital herpes is actually much lower, because there is no shedding on most days, although the frequency of shedding is greater during the first year of infection and diminishes with each succeeding year.
It is also true that gonorrhea and chlamydia can be transmitted by oral sex, but they would not cause the mouth symptoms that you describe. If they cause any symptoms, it would be a sore throat, but even these infections are usually self-limited. It is also possible that genital herpes can be transmitted to the mouth, causing cold sores similar to oral herpes.
If the urethra is inflamed causing the sensation of being stuck together, that could be a chlamydia infection, but the remaining symptoms that you describe are not typical for any STD.
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