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I am having trouble having sex with my wife my penis just

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Hi i am having trouble having sex with my wife my penis just doesn’t go inside her vaginal opening i tried sex toy and that go inside of her easily but not my penis
JA: Is this your first time reaching out for information about this?
Customer: yes
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Customer: No
Submitted: 18 days ago.
Category: OB GYN
Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Hi

Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Is she feeling anxious nowadays?

Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

I think try relaxing her . He vaginal muscles are tightened unintentionally.

Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

This condition is known as 'vaginismus'

Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Give her time.

Customer: replied 18 days ago.
She doesn’t feel nervous but she is a virgin I had sex before any my penis with other partners were fine no problem it’s been with my wife almost 4 months since our wedding
Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Hope this sex is not first time with her?

Customer: replied 18 days ago.
She a virgin she never had sex before
Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Yes , thats the reason.

Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Many cultures have different taboos about sex.

Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

She will take time . She is not nervous its just her brain which is not allowing her to enjoy sex.

Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Many girls have fears that sex is painful initially so brain stick to those thoughts.

Customer: replied 18 days ago.
Her vaginal opening is small could that be a problem but sex toy go inside fine and finger but just not my penis as I lose erection quickly aswell then I have to bring the erection back aswell
Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Try good lubrication and kissing .

Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Yes tight vagina is a problem in the beginning. Try lubrication.

Customer: replied 18 days ago.
Does tight vagina stretch
Expert:  Dr Kay replied 18 days ago.

Yes , it can .