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Category: Parenting
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Experience:  I have my bachelors degree in psychology. I worked with children. Since then I have raised and still raising 3 wonderful boys.
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This is a psychological question, I rescently found out that

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This is a psychological question, I rescently found out that my kids have been emotionally abused by their mother for years, we split up 2 years ago.
Their mother is displaying clear signs of Narcisistic Psychosis, and is impervious to reason.
A family friend is treating it as a "falling out" and is trying to persuade my eldest to talk to her mother this is seriously disturbing my eldest...
Personally I think they really don't need their mother in their lives at the moment whie they get their heads together....
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  Jen Helant replied 2 years ago.
I am so sorry for what your children have been through?
Do you have a specific question or would you like my opinion on if they should have their mother in their lives?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Hi Thanks,
I guess that was the question I am keen to get the kids 19 & 17 some therapy the 17 year old is having massive anxiety issues related to her mothers behaviour.
I think we are all fairly down with it all.
Their mum blames everyone and tells lies all the time so they rescinded not to see her as she rants and raves at them when she does.
Expert:  Jen Helant replied 2 years ago.
I think you are making a good choice for all to start therapy. That can help them deal with all their emotions in order to help their future. I agree with the children. If they do not want to see their mother right now that may be the best thing. It does not sound like their mom is helping, but rather hurting. If they change their mind in the future that would be up to them, but I would side with them on this and not force a relationship at all. If their mother gets help and shows change then if the children are ready they can consider it if they want. However, the most important factor right now are the children's healing.
I wish you all the very best and please let me know if I can be of further help.