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I am sorry to know about this frustrating and distressful situation.
It seems the dynamics between you changed right after you started talking about making your relationship official, since it was going very well until then.
Perhaps she was feeling pushed by it since you just started it a couple of months ago, which triggered her personal fears perhaps from past experiences.
Could you please tell me what did she said through her text and confirm that there was not clear agreement between you about keep things the way they were before planning about going official?
You described the relationship going very well, but it has been still very young, and her reactions shows she has felt pushed and uncomfortable when talking about making it formal, that's why I believe she may still have feelings for you but does not want to commit to anything yet, so giving it time could be the best approach as long as both want to work on it
This is why I think it is necessary and worthy to contact her and to ask her if she still wants to keep sharing just as you were before that talk to see how it evolves.
I see, and she did contact you.
Each person is different, so you need to be truthful with yourself, clear about what you want and are willing to afford or not in this situation, then be honest and set consistent boundaries from it.
If you feel you prefer not to stay in touch for a while, then let her know that and be consistent with your decision. If you feel it is worthy to keep sharing if she is also willing to do it, then you would see how things evolve.
Then it would be necessary to have the chance to actually talk about what it means for her, and what you can expect from her, for you to take good care of yourself, and for you to respect each others' boundaries.
Does it make sense?
Sounds good, very assertive and proactive, so you would not be making wrongs assumptions, nor leave doubts or confusions around it. This way you would be taking good care of yourself, while offering her the best possible support under these circumstances.
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Thank you for your trust. Take gentle care and consistent action.