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About six months ago I got back in touch with someone I was

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About six months ago I got back in touch with someone I was at school with when I was 6. He said he liked me and we slept together a couple of times but he said he didn't want a relationship as he was about to go to Canada for the ski season, so we agreed to be just friends. The problem is I can't stop thinking about him and wondering what will happen when he comes back next spring. I have fancied this guy for years (we became Facebook friends when we were fifteen) and I don't want to start a relationship with anyone else in case he does feel the same way. What should I do? Should I let him know how I feel? And if so, do I wait until he's back in town or tell him now?

Hi! I'll be glad to help you with this issue.

I can imagine how confusing this situation must be for you. You are clearly eager to try to make this relationship happen. And he appears to want to be young, enjoy his ski season and go from there.

And this is actually the key to my answer to you that you need to consider and think about. The two of you are young and you need to resist trying to move things too fast. He wanted to feel free on his ski trip and you need to let that happen.

Therefore, you want to keep communication between the two of you light while he's away. That means light in content. You want to keep communication going, but not get into deep feelings. That should wait until he's back and the two of you have seen each other in person again and you can have a talk in person. This is the best way to not get into misunderstandings, which can happen too easily when you are so far away.

Okay, I wish you the very best!

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