Jen, apologies response. I do not work on Fridays and as you can probably guess, when at home I don't get a second to myself.
You are right, I think at this moment in time I feel that I have little choice but to try and get my husband back to 'normal', although as tme progresses, things seem to be getting worse..
At first (in second year of being at home), he was trying to set up a business of his own but things did not work out. Lat year, I had a friend whose husband was trying to get him involved in some work but then had to relocate so nothing came of this either. This last year and at present my husnand has shown no signs of even wanting to find work and I am certain he has gotten 'comfortable' being at home and having no financial responsibility since things are ticking along with me working. Sadly, he has become slack in helping with chores too so I am cooing dinners, washing clothes, sorting kids school things etc.
Our relationship has suffered and we barely talk - the reason I feel trapped is because if I forced him to leave I have no family that would be able to step in to help and I do need it as chillden are still young and need childcare before and after school. He does take them to any activities they might have after school.
He is occupying his time by looking at football coaching skills of the day on his laptop as my son does training on saturdays - I have been tempted to stop this activity but then my son will be upset - I feel very helpless and don't know what to do.