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Hi and welcome. I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
Clearly he is confused and scared...but it really comes down to what you are wanting to do....reassure him that things can go well and make the move? Or just take his head spinning once again as a sign he is not ready.
he may do this off and on for your entire relationship and that is why I suggest that you get to decide what feels right for you.
Yes he sounds scared of making the big leap.
one thing that you must look at...if you move in together and invest in the emotional aspect of it and financial and then he decides he doesn't want it all...how will you be?
I would not contact him at this point and let him figure things out on his own and you get to use this time to explore how you feel and decide if he is the right one for you...not just him deciding it all for you.
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I know it is hard but you need to care for yourself and what you desire
ok well then the good thing is you have a plan in your mind and at the same time prepared to deal with however it plays out
then that is what you rely on for now...he loves you too...just sounds scared.
give him the space that you are and it sounds to me like he desires to be with you and the space lets him clear his mind and panic
hes young too...men at 29 are not where you are at 33.
keep the faith, ok?
I think that is all part of his panic...
I think if he has some time, like all the other times he realizes he loves and misses you
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