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Jen Helant, Counselor
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Experience:  I have a degree in psychology and worked with many couples. I am happily married and have been for 10 years.
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How do you deal with extremely controlling in laws who control

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How do you deal with extremely controlling in laws who control your managers, landlords, friends and get your travel history from TFL to see where you went and literally every single one of these people listen to them because the in laws claim to be helping me in the name of manipulating me?
Do you have an idea why they are doing this or if they truly believe they are helping you?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.

They are doing this because of a religious difference between my spouse and I. And they are definitely not helping me because someone thinking in your best interest would have incriminating evidence against you to point it out and help you improve yourself. With my in laws, it is merely false accusations and lies besides being extremely controlling.

I am sorry this is happening. If they are taking legal action against you then I would recommend having a consulation with an attorney. Within your personal life if they are treating you as such I would try and make a plan how you can exclude them from your daily life. When we are surrounded by negative people whom only want negative things for us that can make a huge negative impact on our lives and is not healthy at all. I would look into moving from them if that is a possibility or if you already do not live close then try not to allow them to visit and such. I would discuss with your partner how you feel about what they are doing and that you want no part of them. I do not know the relationship your partner has with them, but it is usually harder for the actual child to see the faults in their own parents. Try expressing to your partner how they make you feel as well as examples of what they are doing. I personally would not associate with these people. When people want to bring you down to me it doesn't matter of they are blood family or not. People who truly love will show it through their actions and if they are not then why have them in your life.
I wish you the best and please let me know if I can be of further help.
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